Preparing for Death

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Jewish law is adamant that a dying person is treated with the same respect due any living person. The mitzvah of visiting the sick is of great importance and it is a privilege and an honor to sit with a dying person, offer comfort, and ease her through this passage. To be presentto listen, to touch, to accept, to apologize, to forgiveare all invaluable gifts to one who is preparing for death and probably to oneself as well. Many Jews throughout history have written ethical wills, sharing the sum of their life’s learning with their descendants. It is also traditional to say a final confession, or vidui, as the end of life approaches. Today, given medical advances, end-of-life issues have assumed greater importance. Jewish tradition forbids hastening death and at the same time permits removing impediments to death. Knowing whether removing life support constitutes one or the other is a decision best made with medical experts, family members, and spiritual guides.

 

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This ritual is designed to support you as you help your loved one to transition peacefully and filled with love. 
“Does she have unfinished business? Someone she needs to forgive her? Someone she needs to forgive?”
My friends will stand // among the trees // saying Kaddish.
I dry her hair // gently, squeezing over her scalp // as she used to do for me
This creative ritual can be done during a Yizkor service or other gatherings focused exploring on death, dying and legacy.
“My mother was at peace, so I could be at peace.”

“Help us to find holiness in this time”

“We offer our praise for the life that you give us’

“The once noisy room now / hears only mists of whispers”

“Death is my teacher”

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