Coming Out

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As gay, lesbian, transgender, asexual, bisexual, and gender-nonconforming Jews have gained more acceptance within the Jewish community, we have sought a Jewish way to “come out”either publicly to our congregations, or privately to our families. Here you will find coming-out ceremonies, prayers, rituals, and personal stories.

Latest Rituals

Two variations of this prayer include one spoken by a person coming out and one for a witness.
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An affirmative, creative ritual for coming out to a community.
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This prayer includes a version for someone coming out and for someone receiving them.
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This Asexual Coming Out Ceremony can be done by any group or congregation, in any setting.
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“I stand confident in the knowledge of my identity, / and am proud of my courage to claim it.”
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To be recited by the person coming out and those who celebrate them.
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We see each other and we honor our journeys and those yet to come.

Responsive Reading for Coming Out

“To see oneself as completely whole in living”

Pride Shabbat Blessing from an Ally

Prayer honoring one’s gender identity

She’asani Ish V’ishah

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