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Infertility

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Historically, Judaism has offered little for women and men suffering with the pain of infertility. Thankfully, over the last 25 years, Jewish women and men have transformed the canon of Jewish ritual. Jewish women have both created new rituals grounded in traditional practices and language and unearthed prayers and rituals from our past written by and for women, responding to their lives and needs. Jewish men have also given voice to their own struggles with infertility through the creation of new rituals and blessings that acknowledge their shared pain.
 

Latest Rituals

What balm will ease my suffering?

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Traditional blessings for mikveh immersion

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A poem mourning the loss of one’s uterus and exalting the skill of the surgeon

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A prayer for strength and blessings to be recited before entering the mikveh

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It is customary for pregnant women and women seeking to become pregnant to offer prayers to Rachel, Judaism’s mater dolorosa. Specifically, women visit Rachel’s tomb in Bethlehem, wrap a red cord around the tomb, then cut it into smaller pieces which they tie around their own wrists. This ritual for a pregnant woman is based on this custom.

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A prayer that may be said before a medical exam for those undergoing fertility treatment/counseling

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The author brings to life the Genesis tale of Sarah, Abraham, and Hagar by locating Sarah and Abraham’s infertility as the central factor motivating the characters’ behavior

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This essay on grieving the inability to bear children relates the author’s dialogue with her deceased grandmother about whether she has the permission to mourn

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The couple uses the metaphor of tashlich (casting bread upon the water) as renewal to transform their suffering

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