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Bnei Mitzvah

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Bar/bat mitzvah parties so dominate the social lives of teens in New York City that, according to a New York Times article, non-Jewish families are holding “faux mitzvahs” for their envious offspring. What is a bar/bat mitzvah supposed to be? How did it end up like this? Read our overview to learn more, and check out the many new ways families are meaningfully enhancing their bar/bat mitzvah celebrations.

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Following the synagogue service, a minyan of community members conveys what membership in the community entails.
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A mother’s poem describing her experiences with divorce as they affected her daughter’s Bat Mitzvah

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The goal of the Remember Us Project is to have each Bar or Bat Mitzvah student remember one individual child lost in the Holocaust.
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Poem marking the occasion of a child’s Bat/Bar Mitzvah
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A mother’s prayer on the occasion of her daughter becoming Bat Mitzvah

red haired teenaged girl facing the ocean

A beautiful song, a lullaby, about fully accepting our children and offering them complete freedom to become themselves

children from chest down wearing rainboots and holding hands

“It seems like every time I want to write / I can’t / I’m always holding a baby”

Three people smiling, holding a Torah scroll in a synagogue setting.

Blessing for loved ones (partner, children, guest, etc…) on Shabbat or any occasion

A babys hand gently holding an adults finger on a soft white background.

A poem dedicated to women who are crafters of tallitot

spools of thread in a loom

Originally written for the period of Teshuvah — return — preceding the High Holy Days

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