Becoming a Jewish Adult

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The path to adulthood is full of twists and turns. From celebrating a bar/bat mitzvah to leaving home for the first time, this is a journey fraught with new freedom, new responsibilities, and an abundance of complex emotions. We offer blessings, prayers, and rituals that help parents and children use a Jewish vocabulary to describe this journey—and to experience it as richly as possible.

 

Latest Rituals

A tambourine ritual for the onset of menses
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A ritual for a girl’s first period. Includes a circle of names, blessings, candle-lighting, and gift-giving. Ritual objects include a tambourine, red ribbons, a decorative egg, a ring, candles, and red fruits.
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A moonlit ceremony on the shores of a brook. Celebrates the entrance of a daughter into womanhood. Includes songs, book-giving, adapted tashlich ritual, and blessings.

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A description of a menarche ceremony created by a woman for her daughter
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A private ritual to honor a girl’s entrance into womanhood. Includes rainwater bubble bath, blessings, and teachings on sexual health and well-being.

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A Yemenite menarche ritual for a mother and daughter.
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Mordecai Kaplan’s daughter describes her bat mitzvah in 1922 in New York.

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A program involving text study, the creation of blessings, and tzedakah, welcoming girls into the rich continuum of Jewish women’s experience
A group of women in a temple gather for a ceremony, one holding a baby wrapped in a green blanket.
This list, compiled for Orthodox girls, has good ideas for anyone planning a bar or bat mitzvah.
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A guide to creating a meaningful ceremony within the framework of traditional Judaism
Toward a Meaningful Bat Mitzvah book by Nancy Wolfson-Moche

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