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Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Bride and groom smiling at each other during an outdoor wedding ceremony, with an officiant in the background.

Although you might not find “something blue” on Ritualwell, you will find much that is “borrowed,” “old,” and “new.” Jewish tradition is rich in wedding customs, and we have attempted to bring you some samples from this delightful smorgasbord. You will find pre-wedding customs such as ten’aim (engagement), during which it is customary for the mothers of the couple to break a plate, the bedecken (the veiling of the bride and modern alternatives), and the tischen (literally, “tables,” where grooms and/or brides receive blessings and enjoy other rituals immediately prior to the wedding ceremony). You will also find several complete wedding ceremonies along with a breakdown of the constituent parts and alternatives for them, various ketubot (wedding contracts), ideas for tzedakah (charity), and much more. We also explore weddings and ceremonies not envisioned by the rabbis of old—interfaith marriages and weddings and commitment ceremonies between partners of the same sex.
 

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What to wear, what to bring, what to do as a wedding guest

wedding guests making a toast

Three innovative and creative wedding practices, including a two-act play as wedding ceremony

Bride and groom smiling at each other under an arch during an outdoor wedding ceremony.

This article articulates principles of Jewish ritual as the author uses them to create a same-sex Jewish wedding

two mens hands with wedding rings

An alternative to the ketubah which explicitly rejects the language of kinyan (acquisition) in favor of the mutual language of covenant

bride putting ring on groom's finger

A couple’s first-person account of the process of creating their wedding ceremony

two women with arms around each other from behind

A blessing to be read to two women under their huppah

two women nuzzling noses

Kathy, Joyce, and their rabbi found innovative ways to rework the traditional wedding ceremony to suit their needs as two women

two women kissing

The text of the sheva brakhot in Hebrew and translation, an explantion, feminist considerations, two alternative same-sex texts, and an additional prayer for heterosexual couples to add for same-sex partners whose love is not yet sanctified and recognized in the same way

two simple gold wedding bands

This beautiful Covenant of Love ceremony begins with havdalah and is filled with personal expressions of love and well-chosen readings. This ceremony is both a good example of how a lesbian couple reckoned with tradition and also how to make a ceremony extremely personal.

two women holding hands

A new legal formulation for kinyan as acceptance, rather than purchase

wedding band on a piece of wood

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