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Starting a Family

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In contemporary homes, starting a family is often a deliberate choice. The experience of pregnancy, the drama of giving birth, and the miracle of adoption are occasions for joy and wonder. These are also experiences that can be fraught with pain and struggle, reflecting the full spectrum of life and death. We offer prayers for those who are trying to conceive, prayers for pregnancy and childbirth, rituals for parents preparing to adopt, mourning ceremonies for miscarriages, blessings for those struggling with infertility, rituals to prepare for or acknowledge an abortion, and much more. 

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A prayer to be said by a group of friends or family for a woman close to giving birth using the symbolic red thread from Rachel’s Tomb

Pregnant woman in overalls stands in a green field holding yellow balloons.

Describes the customs of Sephardic Jews who celebrated a woman’s first pregnancy by cutting the swaddling clothes at a festive gathering of women

paper clothes on a clothesline

It is customary for pregnant women and women seeking to become pregnant to offer prayers to Rachel, Judaism’s mater dolorosa. Specifically, women visit Rachel’s tomb in Bethlehem, wrap a red cord around the tomb, then cut it into smaller pieces which they tie around their own wrists. This ritual for a pregnant woman is based on this custom.

skeins of red yarn

From an Italian collection of 18th century prayers for married women written by Dr. Giuseppe Cohen and presented to his bride as a wedding gift

pregnant woman in blue dress holding belly

A ritual to be performed in a women’s group focusing on the new mother

mother and newborn baby

A poem that likens the womb’s circles to other circles within Judaism

hand holding circle of light

A ceremony for a woman about to give birth, based on the Navajo custom of the blessingway

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From Genesis 49:25 and Deuteronomy 7:13

pregnant woman in red dress holding leaves

A form of this touching prayer in modern English

woman nursing baby

A prayer that may be said before a medical exam for those undergoing fertility treatment/counseling

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