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Starting a Family

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In contemporary homes, starting a family is often a deliberate choice. The experience of pregnancy, the drama of giving birth, and the miracle of adoption are occasions for joy and wonder. These are also experiences that can be fraught with pain and struggle, reflecting the full spectrum of life and death. We offer prayers for those who are trying to conceive, prayers for pregnancy and childbirth, rituals for parents preparing to adopt, mourning ceremonies for miscarriages, blessings for those struggling with infertility, rituals to prepare for or acknowledge an abortion, and much more. 

Latest Rituals

A personal account describing the author’s experience of losing a baby before rituals were developed to encourage mourning

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A new psalm for a woman terminating her pregnancy

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A mourning ceremony for twins who died before birth

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Prayer to be recited when pregnancy must be ended therapeutically

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A prayer combining contemporary words and Hebrew selections from the High Holy Day Amidah (standing silent prayer)

Delicate white flowers blooming on branches against a soft blue sky background.

A prayer to be said in synagogue for a couple who has experienced a miscarriage

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Selections and adaptations from a larger ceremony

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How one woman infused the tashlikh ritual with a dimension for coping with her loss

A serene stream flows through a forest with mossy rocks and leafless trees on a cloudy day.

Havdalah ceremony after a miscarriage or abortion

A silver spice box, a silver cup on a saucer, and a braided yellow candle in a holder.

A fanciful account, based on the Zohar, a mystical text, describing a baby’s life in the womb, during which time, a candle burns over the baby’s head enabling her to see from one end of the universe to the other and the angels teach her all of Torah.

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