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An Asexual Coming Out Ceremony

hand holding small glass of water

This ritual can be done by any group or congregation, in any setting.

The group/congregation gathers, and the asexual person who is coming out stands in front of them. The asexual person places three cups of water in front of themselves. The asexual person holds out one cup of water, saying,

“By drinking this water, I symbolize the beginning of my new life as an openly asexual person.”

They then drink (or take a sip from) the cup of water.

They then put the cup down and hold out another cup of water, saying,

“By drinking this water, I thank you for witnessing and accepting my asexuality.”

They then drink (or take a sip from) the cup of water.

They then put the cup down and hold out another cup of water, saying,

“By drinking this water, I announce my pride in my asexuality.”

They then drink (or take a sip from) the cup of water.

They then say, “I am proud of my asexuality and proud to share the knowledge of it with all of you. I am also thankful to G-d for this moment. Blessed are you, L-rd our G-d [or Eternal Spirit], Ruler of the Universe who has created me asexual, according to His [or Their] will. Blessed are You, L-rd our G-d [or Eternal Spirit], Ruler of the Universe who sees all coming out ceremonies. Blessed are You Eternal Spirit who has given us life, sustained us and allowed us to arrive in this moment.”

The group/congregation then says: “Blessed are you, L-rd our G-d [or Eternal Spirit], Ruler of the Universe, who has created [person’s name] asexual, according to His [or Their] will. Blessed are You, L-rd our G-d [or Eternal Spirit], Ruler of the Universe who sees all coming out ceremonies. Blessed are You Eternal Spirit who has given us life, sustained us and allowed us to arrive in this moment.”

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