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A Lesbian Coming Out Ceremony

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Gather the people you want to come out to at some setting suitable for lighting candles. Bring two candles that will burn for five minutes total [or longer if you wish] and a match.

Once everyone has gathered, say, “As two candles are lit to usher in the Jewish Sabbath, I am lighting these two candles to usher in my new life as an out of the closet lesbian [optionally add “to you”].

Then light the candles.

Then say, “As these two candles burn down like Shabbat candles, let us consider ways we can oppose lesbophobia and promote the acceptance of lesbians both in the Jewish and in the non-Jewish world.”

Then bow your head and consider that as the candles burn down, and have everyone else do the same. When the candles have burned down, say, “Thank you for coming. Tzeitchem l’shalom, go in peace.”

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