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Task |
When |
Who |
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Choose a date for your wedding in consultation with clergy and family |
1 year in advance |
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Decide on budget and style |
1 year in advance |
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Scout out and choose a reception site |
9–11 months in advance |
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Begin working on guest list and request lists from parents |
9–11 months in advance |
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Choose a caterer |
9–11 months in advance |
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Begin shopping for a gown |
6–8 months in advance |
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Finalize guest list |
6–8 months in advance |
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Meet with rabbi to discuss ceremony; set up prenuptial meetings |
6 months in advance |
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Book a band |
6 months in advance |
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Choose a gown |
4–6 months in advance |
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Book a calligrapher to make your ketubah |
6 months in advance |
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Book a photographer |
4–6 months in advance |
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Register for wedding gifts |
4–6 months in advance |
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Set aside a block of hotel rooms for out of town guests |
4–6 months in advance |
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Decide on wording for invitation |
4–6 months in advance |
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Decide on text for ketubah |
4–6 months in advance |
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Order invitations |
4-6 months in advance |
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Book a baker for the wedding cake |
2–4 months in advance |
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Order kippot and bentschers |
2–4 months in advance |
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Reserve rental equipment if necessary |
2–4 months in advance |
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Plan your honeymoon |
2-4 months in advance |
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Book hotel room for wedding night |
2–4 months in advance |
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Buy wedding rings |
2–3 months in advance |
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Compile packages for out of town guests to be mailed with invitations |
2–3 months in advance |
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Decide on chuppah – florist, tallis, how you will construct it |
2–3 months in advance |
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Purchase other clothing – veil, stockings, shoes, etc. |
2–3 months in advance |
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Send out wedding invitations |
6 weeks in advance |
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As you receive gifts, update registry, and send out thank you notes |
6 weeks in advance |
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Order liquor, wine, etc. |
6 weeks in advance |
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Map out whole ceremony |
6 weeks in advance |
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If you want friends to perform or read something, invite them to do so |
6 weeks in advance |
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Decide on and plan pre-wedding ceremonies – tisch, bedecken, kabalat panim |
4 weeks in advance |
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If you will be celebrating sheva berachot after the wedding work out schedule of locations and guests |
4 weeks in advance |
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Choose witnesses who will sign ketubah |
3–4 weeks in advance |
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Get marriage license |
2–3 weeks in advance |
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Have a final meeting with rabbi |
2–3 weeks in advance |
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Work out wedding day timing and details, who picks up when where, etc. |
1–2 weeks in advance |
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Write and print out wedding booklets |
1–2 weeks in advance |
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Determine wedding day assignments |
1–2 weeks in advance |
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Confirm all service providers – caterer, band, etc. |
1–2 weeks in advance |
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Go the mikveh |
1–3 days before wedding |
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Bring props – kiddush cups, ketubah, etc., – to wedding site |
Day before |
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