Judaism has such a long and enduring tradition, and a community that has thrived for years. But we are human and it is common to experience loneliness or isolation in your journey. Feelings of isolation in Judaism can arise from many sources, like being a minority at work, school, feeling like an outsider to your synagogue family, or even family (for those who may have converted to Judaism). It’s a personal, and sometimes, painful experience leaving you feeling lost and/or misunderstood. I know. I’ve been there.
Let’s turn to our teachings and take a peek at what they say. Going back to my Rabbi’s teaching during the High Holidays, “A person should always be soft like a reed, not hard like a cedar”-Taanit 20a. A great way to put it is that you can bend without breaking, even when you feel out of place. Even though you might be feeling so much emotional pressure, remember to be soft like the reed. You may bend but you won’t break.
“Just as their faces are not alike, so too their opinions are not alike”-Berachot 58a. This shows individuality is divine. This reaches into the story of Hillel and Shammai. Even when opinions clashed, both were honored. This shows uniqueness is not only acceptable, its designed by G!d.
There also is the story of Jeremiah. Jeremiah was a lonely prophet, often rejected by his peers, but his voice still mattered, a lot. Jeremiah was mocked and ridiculed for trying to do a good thing and warn his people. His personal feelings are relatable to this because the feelings of personal anguish and isolation, which makes him a symbol of resilience in the face of rejection.
Jews have faced challenges throughout history and have faced many challenges and periods of isolation. Jewish history as a whole is a testament to resilience and the enduring of the way of the Jewish faith. Our experiences, while unique, are part of a larger continuum of Jewish history and survival.
If you feel alone in your Jewish faith, please know that you are truly not alone. Others have walked similar paths and found ways to reconnect, grow, and thrive. Seeking community, engaging with tradition, and honoring your personal journey are all valid and meaningful ways to nurture your faith. The Jewish concept of klal Yisrael—the collective people of Israel—reminds us that every Jew is part of a larger whole, even in moments of isolation and solitude.
