Is there another way to look at life and death, that isn’t through a lens of fear and trembling?
“HHD” is an abbreviation for “High Holy Days,” but it could just as easily stand for “Hard Holy Days.” Jews who don’t generally attend synagogue during the year will respond to a mysterious pull and come to shul for HHD services. We absolutely welcome these people, yet I can’t help but think what a hard task they have set for themselves. Participating in these “Hard Holy Days” means attending services which are unusually long, whose once-a-year liturgy is unfamiliar, and whose theological ideas may be alienating, or even repellent.
The weekly Shabbat is the Sabbath day, the Day of Rest, and is observed from Friday night through Saturday night. Is set aside from the rest of the week both in honor of the fact that God rested on the seventh day after creating the world. On Shabbat, many Jews observe prohibitions from various activities designated as work. Shabbat is traditionally observed with festive meals, wine, challah, prayers, the reading and studying of Torah, conjugal relations, family time, and time with friends. services our regular attendees experience are mostly about joy and rest and closeness with family and community. By contrast, the HHD prayerbook, the The siddur (prayerbook) used for the High Holidays. Other major holidays also have their own makhzor., is filled with themes of sin, punishment, and death.
One particularly hard prayer is U’netana Tokef, which says that we pass like sheep before G-d who will judge each of us and decide each of our fates:
“On The Jewish New Year, also considered the Day of Judgment. The period of the High Holidays is a time of introspection and atonement. The holiday is celebrated with the sounding of the shofar, lengthy prayers in synagogue, the eating of apples and honey, and round challah for a sweet and whole year. Tashlikh, casting bread on the water to symbolize the washing away of sins, also takes place on Rosh Hashana., it is written, and on The holiest day of the Jewish year and the culmination of a season of self-reflection. Jews fast, abstain from other worldly pleasures, and gather in prayers that last throughout the day. Following Ne'ilah, the final prayers, during which Jews envision the Gates of Repentance closing, the shofar is sounded in one long blast to conclude the holy day. It is customary to begin building one's sukkah as soon as the day ends. it is sealed – who will live and who will die…who will die by fire, who by sword, who by plague…who will live in harmony, who will suffer, who will grow rich, who will become impoverished… U’teshuvah, u’Lit. Prayer, u’Charity. In Hebrew, the word tzedakah derives from the word for justice. Tzedakah is not seen as emanating from the kindness of one’s heart but, rather, as a communal obligation. ma’a’virin et ro’a ha gezera – But repentance, prayer, and giving money to charity will avert the severe decree.”
How emotionally troubling it is to read that G-d is judging us and decreeing our fate, and how difficult to think that we have so little control over our destinies. We are told that we should be filled with fear and trembling as we contemplate G-d’s judgment of us.
But what if you are a good person and yet you really don’t think of G-d and sin and life and death this way? Is there another way to look at life and death, that isn’t through a lens of fear and trembling? If you could somehow find permission to slip out of this prayer’s clutches of reward and punishment, is there a way to remain in relationship with this powerful piece of tradition?
I’ve been on this journey and have become able to acknowledge both the difficulty and the beauty of U’netana Tokef. I treasure the pathos expressed here of the fragility of human life, the realization that so little is in our control. Yet I struggle with the theology—the doctrine of reward and punishment.
The paytan—the medieval (or pre-medieval) poet who composed this piyyut (hymn)—was sharing a theology which doesn’t work well for us moderns, and may even be damaging to us.
Nonetheless, the piyyut gives us a window into the theology of the paytan’s era, a time of persecution.
What might be most comforting in such a time? Perhaps to feel sure that one’s life and death (which loomed likely) was imbued with meaning. If a person would die by the sword, it was better to attribute this to G-d’s decreeing so, rather than understand in despair that the Jews were being senselessly slaughtered by their persecutors who vastly outnumbered them. As harsh as the doctrine of reward and punishment is, it was less frightening, perhaps, to our ancestors than to imagine a world ruled by chance, a world without an organizing principle.
I can appreciate and be deeply moved by the payytan’s intense expression of fear and trembling in the face of the uncertainty of life, but I feel no obligation to share his theology, his supposition of how G-d works.
So my advice to the good people who show up for Hard Holy Days, who open the machzor, read texts like U’netana Tokef and freeze up:
1. Keep breathing.
2. Remember that we don’t have to believe what the paytan believes. Judaism does not have a credal requirement.
Let me go further and ask why do we think we have to accommodate ourselves to everything in the makhzor (or the year-round prayerbook, the Lit. Order of prayers. The prayer book.)? Some prayerful expressions may resonate for us and some may appall us. Why does that seem almost taboo to say?
I suspect the problem is that the The siddur (prayerbook) used for the High Holidays. Other major holidays also have their own makhzor./siddur is a bound book. It seems so authoritative as if its very binding says: “Here are the official thoughts a Jew should have at all times.” And while the The siddur (prayerbook) used for the High Holidays. Other major holidays also have their own makhzor./siddur is the Jewish text that people have the most exposure to, generally they don’t know where it came from, how it developed.
It did develop. It did grow over time. I encourage you to understand the machzor and the siddur as collections of journal entries from different people in different eras trying to work out their relationship with G-d.
Try thinking of the The siddur (prayerbook) used for the High Holidays. Other major holidays also have their own makhzor./siddur as descriptive (a diverse collection of people’s own attempts to express the ineffable) rather than prescriptive (a directive of what you should believe).
In that light, I find it possible to love and be moved by the poetry and the power of U’netana Tokef while not finding the payytan’s theology relevant to my worldview.
If I were asked to write a similar piyyut from my own worldview, it would draw on these themes:
1. We’re not in control.
2. We move forward anyway, living our lives, doing our best.
3. To move forward often takes a belief in something larger than ourselves.
4. Life is beautiful and mysterious and contradictory.
5. Lit. Prayer, teshuvah, tzedakah don’t really avert the decree of death, but they do make life better.
Some of us want to grapple with the difficult liturgical formulations of these Days of Awe. For some of us using these words that have been used for hundreds of years helps connect us deeply and authentically to our ancestors. For some of us using the words that are being used by Jews all over the world helps us connect deeply and authentically with K’lal Yisrael during these Days.
If you want to grapple with these difficult prayers, you don’t have to go it alone. One highly recommended resource for grappling is Rabbi Alan Lew’s book This Is Real and You Are Completely Unprepared. Rabbi Lew z”l was called the “Zen Rabbi” who brought meditation back into Judaism.
Another resource within our Kol Haneshamah makhzor is the excellent commentary “below the line” on many pages of prayer. Also be sure to note alternative and interpretative versions of some of the central prayers, including two excellent interpretive versions of U’netana Tokef.
And finally, dear Twice-a-Year Jews, please know that we are happy to see you whenever you come. I just wanted to let you know that there are easier and more pleasant ways to access Jewish life than the “Hard Holy Days.” Show up for a short musical Friday night service, a communal potluck in our Lit. hut or booth A temporary hut constructed outdoors for use during Sukkot, the autumn harvest festival. Many Jews observe the mitzvah of living in the Sukkah for the week of Sukkot, including taking their meals and sleeping in the Sukkah., or a spiritual experience in nature for Outdoor Shabbat is the Sabbath day, the Day of Rest, and is observed from Friday night through Saturday night. Is set aside from the rest of the week both in honor of the fact that God rested on the seventh day after creating the world. On Shabbat, many Jews observe prohibitions from various activities designated as work. Shabbat is traditionally observed with festive meals, wine, challah, prayers, the reading and studying of Torah, conjugal relations, family time, and time with friends..
Much more fun!
L’shanah Tova—may you have a good and sweet New Year of learning and discovering!
Rabbi Amy Loewenthal is a 2012 graduate of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College. She serves Congregation Ahavas Achim (JRC affiliate) in Keene, NH.
(Originally published in the Sept. 5774 issue of the CCA bulletin, Congregation Ahavas Achim’s bi-monthly newsletter)