This ritual is intended for engaged couples on the occasion of receiving their ketubah in the mail or seeing it finished for the first time. Receiving the ketubah in the mail or seeing it finished for the first time can be a powerful moment for couples, marking a realization that their wedding is becoming a reality. Wedding planning is often filled with so many details that, while anticipated for months, can be difficult to fully imagine or picture until everything comes together on the big day. Many couples describe the moment they receive their ketubah as a “woah” moment—when they see their names on the document and realize just how real everything has become. This ritual was created to slow that moment down, add intention, and offer a special opportunity for the couple to connect over their ketubah amidst the sometimes chaotic wedding planning process.
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“I can’t believe it’s finally here!” Your ketubah has arrived in the mail, or you’re seeing it finished for the first time. While it’s tempting to open the box immediately, consider taking this opportunity to connect with your partner and experience the unboxing together. One way to think about your ketubah is like a metaphorical thread that weaves through time, accompanying you during the wedding planning process, on your big day, and throughout your marriage. Seeing it for the first time marks a milestone along that journey, and can stir up a range of emotions for both you and your partner especially if your wedding day is nearing. In the midst of the (sometimes chaotic) wedding planning process, use this ritual to slow down and celebrate with your partner.
Each cardboard layer peeled away,
A story yet untold,
The gift, the joy, the spark,
Unwrapped, its essence bold.
We pause to take it in,
The feeling soft, serene,
For in this quiet moment,
The wait was worth the dream.
Open the packaging and take a few moments to look over your ketubah. Notice the colors, shapes, and textures. Allow your eyes to gently wander over the piece, without rushing. What draws your attention first? What details do you find yourself coming back to?
Take a moment to observe the emotions that arise within you as you gaze at the design. How does it make you feel? Is there a particular memory, thought, or feeling that surfaces?
When you’re ready, read the text of your ketubah together. What are the 1-2 words or phrases that resonate most with you in this moment? Why?
Together, offer the Shehekheyanu blessing in Hebrew or through this creative English interpretation.
| Baruch atah Adonai, Eloheinu Melech haolam, shehekheyanu, v’kiy’manu, v’higiyanu laz’man hazeh. |
בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה, יְיָ אֱלֹהֵינוּ, מֶלֶךְ הָעוֹלָם, שֶׁהֶחֱיָנוּ וְקִיְּמָנוּ וְהִגִּיעָנוּ לַזְּמַן הַזֶּה Blessed are You, Creator of the universe, who has sustained us and brought this sacred moment to fruition. |
As we hold in our hands this ketubah, a symbol of the love, commitment, and sacred bond that will unite us forever, we are filled with gratitude. This beautiful document, a work of art and a testament to our promises, reflects the journey we are about to embark on together. May this ketubah be a constant reminder of our shared dreams, our devotion, and the strength of the vows we will make under the huppah.
Safely wrap your ketubah in its packaging, and store it flat in a cool, dry place. Grab a favorite celebratory drink and find a comfy spot with your partner. Together, take a moment to reflect and check-in using these four questions:
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What do you feel is going well in preparation for your wedding day?
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What is one thing your partner can do to support you in the coming days?
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What about the wedding and/or marriage is bringing you feelings of nervousness?
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What about the wedding and/or marriage is bringing you feelings of excitement or joy?
