Tradition & Innovation

Ritual Guide: One-on-one rabbinic support to personalize your ritual moments

What’s a Ritual Guide?

Ritual Guide is a special service offered by Ritualwell: someone who guides you, one on one, through the process of creating a ritual for any moment in life you want to make sacred.

Why Hire a Ritual Guide?

A Guide on Your Journey

When the Israelites left Egypt and entered the wilderness as a free nation, the real journey of discovering who they were began. Yet when Moses went up to Mount Sinai and didn’t return immediately with the Ten Commandments the people quickly turned to the Golden Calf—because they were lost. They needed their guide. As contemporary Jews, we live in a different kind of wilderness—not an empty desert, but a landscape filled with too much information. We have the Torah, layers upon layers of commentary, but we often don’t know where to begin in applying this wisdom to our everyday lives. 

Ritualwell offers a huge database of contemporary rituals created by people like you, to mark sacred moments in their lives. But sometimes the ritual you’re looking for hasn’t been created yet, and you need a guide to walk you through the process.

That’s why we’re offering the Ritual Guide, a one-on-one consultation with a rabbi to help you design and personalize rituals for your particular needs. You choose a rabbi from among our experts to discuss and craft the ritual of your dreams. Your guide will help you choose songs, prayers, meditations, and poems, or work with you to write the words to express your unique vision. Your guide will provide suggestions for how to build your own Jewish traditions, whether to mark a personal transformation, a family celebration, an experience of loss, or any other sacred moment in life.

How Does it Work?

1. Fill out our form and indicate which of our Ritual Guides (from the list below) you would like to work with.

2. We will respond within 48 hours to match you with your Ritual Guide. He or she will be in touch to schedule your consultation.

3. You will agree on a day and time to meet, and meet online via Zoom for either a 30 minute or 1 hour session, where you’ll work together to craft the ritual of your dreams. If you would like to register for additional meetings with your Ritual Guide, you will have the option to do so after your first meeting.

Please note that Ritual Guide is not an officiation service. If you have questions about officiation for ceremonies, our rabbis can offer recommendations of colleagues in your area.


Note: The Ritualwell staff is always available to help you navigate our site, for free. The Ritualwell website is designed for easy search and navigation, but sometimes it’s hard to find the exact ritual you’re looking for. Email us at ritualwell@reconstructingjudaism.org, and we’ll be happy to help you find resources on our site.

Sometimes the ritual you’re looking for has not been created yet! If you need help designing the ritual of your dreams, our Ritual Guides are here for you.

Ritual Guide ½ hour consultation: $55
Ritual Guide 1 hour consultation: $90

Our Ritual Guides

Rabbi Fredi Cooper

Rabbi Cooper came to the rabbinate after years of work in the secular world as a professor, school director, and family therapist. She brought all of this past experience with her to the rabbinate and she has been privileged to serve as a congregational rabbi, a consultant, and for over ten years a professor at the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College, mentoring and teaching students.


Rabbi Kami Knapp

Rabbi Kami Knapp graduated from the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College in June 2017. She received her MA at the School of Oriental and African Studies in London, where she wrote her dissertation on the political implications of the emigration of Ethiopian Jews to Israel. After grad school Kami returned to her native Seattle where she worked as a discharge planner at a local mental health hospital. Kami has worked at the Washington State Holocaust Education Resource Center, as Education Director at Temple B’nai Abraham, as the Rabbinic Intern for Temple University Hillel and Arcadia University, and student rabbi for Woodstock Jewish Congregation. Kami completed a Clinical Pastoral Education unit at Harborview Medical Center in Seattle, WA, where she specialized in spiritual care with mental health patients. Rabbi Kami specializes in incorporating feminism into ritual, ritualizing mental health journey and care, and designing creative ritual founded upon traditional practice, prayer, and language.

Rabbi Nathan Martin

Rabbi Nathan Martin currently serves as the Associate Rabbi at Congregation Beth Israel in Media, PA. Rabbi Nathan has had a long-time interest in creating relevant ritual with people from all walks of life. In addition to an active practice of interfaith wedding officiating, he also has supported couples and families to mark moments along their life cycle, from creative baby naming rituals, to out-of-the-box bar and bat mitzvah (rites of passage), to end of life. When appropriate Rabbi Nathan also likes to integrate wisdom from his past training in mindfulness practice, niggun, song, and environmental leadership into his work as well. He lives in the Philadelphia area and is blessed with a loving partner and two children.

Rabbi Vivie Mayer

Rabbi Vivie Mayer directs and teaches in the Mekhinah program at the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College. She also serves as director of the Bet Midrash. She lived in Israel for seven years—in Beth Shemesh, teaching ESL in middle and high schools, and on a kibbutz, working and teaching Jewish studies to adults. She served as rabbi of Congregation B’nai Israel in Danbury, CT, for 10 years. During that time, she also served as a chaplain for Jewish women at the Federal Correctional Institution in Danbury. For seven years she was an active member of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association board and executive board. She is a graduate of Queens College of the City University of New York. She graduated with a rabbinical degree from RRC in 1996. Mayer has an article in The Women's Haftarah Commentary (Jewish Lights Publishing, 2004). Her congregation in Danbury published a collection of her sermons and articles and a CD of her original music. And most recently, she was a contributing author to Chapters of the Heart.

Your Journey Begins Here

Thanks for your interest in working with a Ritual Guide! The first step is to fill out the form below. You will hear back from Ritualwell within 48 hours (except weekends and holidays) to start the process of matching you with a rabbinic expert. You will not be charged until you have been matched with your Ritual Guide, at which point you will schedule your meeting and pay through a secure online form. Any questions? Email us at ritualwell@reconstructingjudaism.org.

Use the following format: 555-555-5555

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