Tisch - Gratitude, Appreciation and Anticipation

Found In: Weddings & Commitment Ceremonies

Tags: tisch, Song of Songs, Rabbi Shefa Gold

Joan Bayliss | Complete Ceremony

The couple is seated in facing chairs. Once they are seated, a tallit or other fabric barrier is held up between them, and they are instructed to close their eyes and prepare to look on the face of the beloved. A grounding exercise may be useful - feeling the connection of their feet to the floor, their “sit bones” to the chair, focusing on breath.

Reader:
For all the lessons that life has taught me; for all the good times and all the hard times that have shaped me; for all the happiness and all the trials that are yet to come; and for the magnificent blessing of this present moment, I offer my gratitude before the Eternal One:

Modeh/Modah Ani lefanekha/lifanayikh *

For the gift of the body, the senses, the heart and the mind, for these mechanisms of my soul, I offer my gratitude before the Eternal One:

Modeh/Modah Ani lefanekha/lifanayikh *


For the sight of the Beloved, the light of my eyes, my chosen companion on the road ahead, I prepare myself with open heart and open hands. In joy and humility I offer my gratitude before the Eternal One:

Modeh/Modah Ani lefanekha/lifanayikh *

(Remove the barrier, and look at each other)

Et dodim kallah, bo’i le gani; Oh, my bride, it is the time for lovers, come into my garden
Parkha ha gefen, heynetzu ha rimonim: The vine has blossomed; the pomegranates are in bud
Et simkha ve et ahavah, bo’i le gani: The time for joy, the time for love, come into my garden.

 

* This chant, created and taught by Rabbi Shefa Gold, forms the core of a gratitude meditation:
the chant is sounded in sets of three. The first and third times, I say “l’fanekha;” The second I say “lifanayikh.”

The first: bowing to the left side, bring to awareness the gifts and obstacles in your past - in grateful awareness that both have shaped you and brought you here.

The second: bowing to the right side, offer thanks for that which is yet to come - in recognition that some of it will be hard, and offer gratitude for the coming lessons.

The third: bowing forward from the waist, gratefully enter and receive the present moment.