Historically, only a man could initiate Jewish divorce proceedings. The ceremony itself required a woman’s passive participation and did not address the concerns of same-sex couples. Recognizing that a divorce means more than the dissolution of property, we offer rituals to provide comfort and closure—addressing a range of emotions for all people going through a divorce. May these rituals bring healing to all who use them.

Havdalah Divorce

By Rabbi Megan Doherty
A divorce ceremony for the couple to be used following or, in some cases, in place of, a traditional get.   more
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Tags: havdalah, get

Mourning a Marriage

By Rabbi Laura Geller
An article describing a ceremony for a woman to do among friends following a traditional get   more
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My Un-Wedding Ceremony

By Judyth Labensohn
A ritual to be performed by a woman with women friends after the traditional get ceremony. The ritual moves from mourning to celebration and renewal.   more
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Yom Chadash [A New Day]

By Myrna Gale
A ceremony for a divorced woman to perform with a group of friends in which she mourns her old life and celebrates her future   more
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Spiritual Divorce Ceremony

By Rabbi Jonathan Perlman
A spiritual divorce ceremony performed by the husband in the company of friends and family to reframe his divorce as a healing   more
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Jewish Divorce

By Cantor Judith Bender
A brief mourning ceremony performed by a divorcee and her friends following a traditional get ceremony   more
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Tags: get